We can’t afford to dwell on Monday’s result. As staff we have picked the bones out of it and we’ll take the positives into this weekend.

I thought we passed the ball pretty well against Charlton but it came down to both boxes and we weren’t ruthless enough.

We created a good amount of chances and had we taken them, it would have been a different story.

We didn’t mark from a set-piece, then we conceded another and then we were chasing the game in the second half.

It’s disappointing to have lost, especially being a local derby as well, but we have to try and keep the boys’ confidence high.

We have reflected on what we should have done better and are now prepared for Fleetwood.
It is a game that we need to win, or get something from, and hopefully that will be us done then for the season and we don’t have to be looking over our shoulders.

It is a massive incentive and everyone will be ready and looking forward to it. We have to make sure we do it on the pitch.

Earlier this season I went back to Welling as manager when they were struggling. Sometimes when you go into a new club you can hit the ground running straight away and pick up a good amount of wins and other times it takes a good amount of time.

We went in and won seven on the bounce and managed to steer them away. We would have liked to have won more than we have done here but it is still in our hands and we know what we need to do to get over the line.

It has been tough since coming in but it has been enjoyable. All of the staff, myself especially, have enjoyed working with these players. It’s just frustrating that we haven’t had the results we wanted or had the impact that we wanted straight away.

You want to keep progressing as a coach and to come in on a daily basis and work with good technical players and players who want to listen and learn.

It takes me a couple of days to get over a defeat. The night of the game, especially if you have to travel, can be a killer. It takes a good day or two to reflect and see what we did wrong and you then have to let it go and prepare for the next game.

Sometimes it is good to go home and leave the football behind and concentrate on the family. I have done it in the past where you are constantly thinking about football all the time and it does take over your life. You don’t think about anything else and you have to learn there are times you have to switch off.

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